How do I treat my drug addict son in my will.He is irresponsible,dishonest and sells anything he comes across?

trailerparkbob
#1. May 13th, 2009, at 6:14 PM.

Karate chop him in the throat!!!!!!!!!!

cesarsbabygirl
#2. May 16th, 2009, at 2:58 AM.

Don’t give him anything. My Mom is a drug addict and we have tried to help her many times also. I haven’t spoken to her in years and my Grandma took her out of her will.
BTW, my Dad passed away when I was 9(I’m 22 now) and my mom sold all his stuff that was supposed to be passed down to my sister and I.

brandon d
#3. May 18th, 2009, at 7:04 PM.

The only opinion that really matters is yours in this matter but for some help i’d say leave him out of it. My aunt left alot of stuff behind for one of my cousins and almost a week later he pawned everything and then got busted with a butt load of meth and went to the pokey. People that don’t want to help themselves are doomed until they decide to change it, no force on the planet can change their minds but themselves.
Goodluck and take care

yurbud
#4. May 19th, 2009, at 3:02 AM.

If you have a significant amount of money, you could put it in a trust, with an administrator who will only dole it out for very specific purposes like treatment, medical, college, etc. and even then, he’d write the checks directly to those institutions instead of your son.

Have you tried getting him evaluated by a shrink? That kind of hyper-destructive behavior could be part of manic depression or something along those lines.

cdan8ive
#5. May 21st, 2009, at 7:31 AM.

Put a clause in the will if he remains sober he must show proof by submitting to a visual drug test each time he wants to receive money if he refuses he gets none. Or simply cut him off to prove that his behavior is simply not going to be tolerated or enabled in any way no longer.

x x jane x x
#6. May 22nd, 2009, at 6:11 PM.

have you tried to move to a different place and take him with you…away from all the idiots he’s hanging around with.
try and get him one day before he has had his fix when hes a little bit on a straight head and tell him that you want to give him something in the will but because of how he is behaving he has to change his ways or stay the way he is and get nothing, tell him how much it would mean to all of you for him to change his ways and become straight and how much positive things would be if he was off drugs. I know its easier said than done but keep at it and one day he might realise how much he really is hurting you.
good luck with him.

jess b
#7. May 24th, 2009, at 11:20 AM.

as conservative as it sounds there is a exception to every rule, even the one about not slapping around your kids. (a man should never hit a woman, this lasts until I see a woman threatening the life of my child, then the bitch will wish she volunteered as a punching bag for back yard wrestling instead!!) and your son is threatening his own life with his life style of drugs and slaking

after that, (if your to liberal to do it) you can set up funds as a trust for either college or housing, (deeds can have a condition of sale that a property can only be sold to family members)

spindymindi
#8. May 24th, 2009, at 9:04 PM.

listen, i did shot up speed for 17 years i am 29.i stopped 8 mo ago. My granny raised me and loved me more than life.when she died i got her old antique jewelry,one day i was so BLASTED i left it outside a motel room and it was stolen.i still regret it.i wish she would have specifically asked that i get nothing unless I’m sober and have been for a while.
its your will if you want to leave him something state in the will that under the circumstance that he is sober and has been he will receive whatever you wish to give if hes not someone else has possession and until he proves mentally strong enough he gets nothing!!all though that might be tricky to determine if that hes sober
however i hope he reaches his point soon and before you pass.i was so splattered i didn’t even go to the funeral for my granny.that’s a kick in the gut now!
DO NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING!!you said it your self he cannot be trusted.
when and if he gets sober he will understand