Are These Good Reasons to Not Want Kids or Am I Overreacting?

Question by elledriver80: Are these good reasons to not want kids or am I overreacting?
Hello,

I am in my late 20’s, college educated, all that good stuff. I have always said I didn’t want kids, I never been in a “real” relationship. Sometimes I want children, sometimes I don’t. The real reasons I say I don’t want kids are 3 reasons: because I’m scared of how the kid will turn out. I watch that show “intervention” and feel so sorry for those parents, they look so tired! What if my kid turned out to be a dead beat drug addict? The second reason is I never been around many kids so I don’t know if I would be a good parent and the last reason is (as bad as it sounds) I can’t see myself being responsible for someone for 18 years and beyond, it’s just too long. I told my female friend who is a single mom with 2 kids and she said they are “dumb” reasons not to have kids. She said when I find the right man thoughts will change but I don’t think so. I would like to know what parents think because I’m trying to figure things out for my life as I search for a serious partner. TY.
* I just look at people with crying babies, etc. and think “I could not handle that.” LOL.
Far as I’m concerned, leaving your mark in the world doesn’t have to be creating a new life, that’s selfish, if it’s not for the right reasons. Oprah has no kids, people would be hard pressed to say she hasn’t left her mark on the world in various ways.

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Answer by imarockstarr.!
i think they’re good reasons but maybe when you do meet the right man your might change your mind. but thats totally your choice, not mine.

Answer by fluffy the wonderdog
if your gut is telling you that you don’t want to have kids by all means get on birth control and stay on it

the right guy for you may not want to have kids either so don’t worry about if you should or shouldn’t
kids are a huge responsibility and they are in your life forever and ever

you can aways borrow a relatives child to see if you like it later

my sister never wanted to have kids and had a very happy life
i have 2 and the work never ends

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